A special space to fight nightmares

Despite my kids both generally sleep through the night since they were around 7 months old, they have had periods when they had regular really frightening nightmares and have been waking up in the middle of the night, absolutely unable to fall back asleep as terrified to remain alone in their rooms.
Unfortunately we have the smallest double bed size in our room, a queen size, and my husband is quite big. We found in the past that letting them sleep with us was simply another nightmare for us, as not only there was definitively not enough space for 3 of us (let alone 4 when they had a nightmare during the same night at different times) but also because they move a lot in their sleep.
In the past we tried to lie next to their bed to comfort them so they could fall asleep again but they often cannot let go completely as they know that we will go back to our bed as soon as we think they are asleep again: that’s when they open their eyes wide open and they start crying terrified as we were about to leave the room…!

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How to apply for permanent residency

It is undeniable that the political events of the past few months have put a dark light on the future of Europeans living across the UK, no matter how long ago they arrived.

My husband had been considering applying for citizenship much before all of this happened, he even passed the ‘life in the UK’ test in August 2014. But because our daughter was a baby at the time and we did not get much sleep at night, we kept on pushing back filling out all the forms for him to apply for British nationality, providing the traveling diary requested which was the longest job to put together with all the papers requested.

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Don’t forget to change your clock!

It’s now 8.25am and not 7.25am, so if you have a play date to the Clapham fun fair today or you wanted to take the kids to the 11am slot at the soft play area, you will have one less hour available for breakfast and to get everyone ready in time, just to complicate your life a bit more 🙂 Kids can suffer quite a lot the change of hour this time of the year, even if it’s just an alteration of 60 minutes to their usual schedule… To avoid them being grumpy or clingy it would have been good to plan ahead (which I didn’t have time to think about of course, as if we didn’t have enough to organize in our daily lives!) such us putting them to bed 15 minutes earlier 15 days ago, then half an hour ahead 10 days ago, then 45 minutes earlier 5 days ago so that today they would be easily getting used to the new routine. In that case it’s important you follow the changes with them too, otherwise they wake you up at what still feels 6am to you (instead of 7am let’s say)!

How to get your new born child a passport quickly

If you are British or have all your relatives living in the UK, you probably would not understand the urge to get your new born baby a passport to leave the country and travel soon after their birth.

However, many of us who moved to the UK only less than a decade ago or so, not followed by the rest of their family of origin (immigrants or expats, if we want to sound posher), feel a strong desire to make their parents and grandparents meet the new addition to the family as soon as possible, not only on Skype so to speak 🙂 . Some may have elderly relatives that won’t be able to travel in a foreign country; for others it’s a financial matter, where it makes more sense for less people to move and visit the rest of the family instead of the other way around; or you could have a sibling’s wedding to attend or some other important family reunion you simply cannot (and don’t want to!) miss.

Since June 2012, minors have been able to travel only if they have their own travel document and can unfortunately no longer travel just by using their parents’ passport containing the minor’s name. Hence the need of an ID for the baby too, quite quickly. The things to know about this procedure are the following.

Delivery discharge summary

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Childcare vouchers – What they are and how to use them

If you are new to having a child you may not know why would you want to ask your employer for childcare vouchers.

Definition.

Childcare vouchers are a specific amount of money (up to £243 per salary at the moment) that every parent (mother, father or both separately) may ask to be deducted from their gross salary (before taxes are paid) to use to pay their kid’s childcare provider (child-minders, nurseries, school breakfast and afternoon clubs, leisure centers holiday clubs).

Benefits.

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